Extroverts and Introverts

As an introvert, I have a hard time dealing with people, and this is made worse by my shyness. Just so everyone knows, being shy and being an introvert are not the same thing. Being shy means having anxiety about talking to people, while being an introvert means you feel exhausted by being around people and feel recharged by being alone. Extroverts feel energized by being with people and de-engergy by being alone. Extroverts also think things out by talking things through, while introverts think by being alone. Neither method of being is better than the other, but when introverts and extroverts have to interact with each other, it can sometimes result in conflict. Introverts are naturally self reflective. This isn't to say that extroverts aren't self reflective, but being self reflective is a skill that extroverts have to learn how to do as opposed to introverts who do so automatically. Take a housemate I had once. This guy was the very definition of extroverted, but wasn't self reflective at all. When ever he got into a conflict with anyone, he delt with it by trying to talk it out and by being friendly. Over the summer we dated for a bout a week, then he told me that he had already started something with someone else a few months earlier, so I broke up with him. He ended up not dating either of us. Anyway, my fellow housemate was just the opposite, she was an introvert. She decided that she disliked the introverted guy because of the way he had treated me and also because of the fact that he had a tendency to break things by accident. So she decides to avoid him. This results in him trying harder to talk to her, which made things worse, until she yells at him to leave us alone. I think if he had understood where our personalities were coming from, the situation wouldn't have gotten so bad. The other thing about extroverts is that they got over social hurts much faster than introverts do. This same guy I broke up with still wanted to be friends with me even after I called him a jerk. I know another extrovert whose girlfriend cheated on him but who still remained friends with her. This ability is mysterious to me. When someone hurts me, I have a tendency to avoid them and not speak to them. I go through these patterns where I have friends for 1-3 years until I get hurt enough or frustrated enough with them, then I stay alone for 1-2 years until I get so lonely that I start getting friends again, then the pattern repeats itself. Is this an introverted characteristic or just me? And how do extroverts get over social hurts so much easier, or is this not true? Thoughts are appreciated.